I have lost count of the number of articles, podcasts and books I have seen offering guaranteed pathways to mind blowing orgasm.
Bigger, better, stronger, more expansive, deeper. They postulate a step by step approach to the ultimate.
Or do they?
What happens when we let go of the need to orgasm?
What else is there?
Do we even know?
I would suggest often… we don’t.
We are educated in a way that is about agendas, goals, achievements and where reaching the finish line equals success.
Where being clear, driven and focused is valued over trust, surrender and curiosity without a given destination.
And that is how we approach sex.
Orgasm is the aim and unless we achieve it, we are unhappy.
I dare to differ in my view and wonder what happens when we add intending rather than attachment as an approach to our experiences.